Domestic Violence Problems and Solutions by Ritu Singal

We all have heard what is Domestic Violence? But do you know that Domestic Violence is a chain that begins from start a small dominant in conversations with our partners?

This chain became sturdy day by day from a little disagreement to a big talk fight that can lead to a little harsh physical to a fight that nobody forgets and let's scars on the mind.

What is Domestic Violence?

When a person tries to control and exercise power over his partner in the context of the Relationship Problem, any mental issues, stress regarding anything between them. 

Violence or any other form of abuse done to a person in the domestic like in case of marriage or cohabitation. In most cases, it is done by my dominating partner or family or that partner, that can be life threatening.

It could be: physical, emotional, sexual, or financial. In most cases, in India the abusers are male and the victims are female. But it doesn't mean girls don't do this torture.

During the Lockdown big rise in domestic violence cases India.

In 2020, between 25 March to 31 May there were 1477 complaints of domestic violence that were made by women. This 68-day period recorded more complaints than those received between March and May in the previous 10 years.

Info Source by the Hindu clicks to read the-  full article here

What are the Warning Signs of this Domestic Violence Problem?

Arguments and misunderstandings happened in every Indian family, couple. But if Domestic Violence is little at the beginning stage, try to understand the problem with your partner with a patience mind and find out the solution to your relationship problems.

Whatever or whom you believe remember them and don't lie, and answer.

• Now, are you afraid of your partner?
• Do you have to be careful because of mood swings?
• What state of mind will my partner be in, and you always focus on his needs?
• Relationship Problem are increasing day by day and getting worst
• Does your partner lose his nerves easily and for minor issues?
• It has hit or almost hit you or your children.
• Does it make it difficult for you to see you’re loved once or to talk to them?
• Insults and threatens you and your children.
• Jealous and accuses you of flirting and having romantic relationships with other people.
• Does your partner criticize you in front of other people, about your appearance, your clothing, and your gender like: first learn to cook properly then learn to drive?
• It has forced you to do something you didn't want to do.
• He has forced you to have lovemaking with him or with other people. It has forced you to engage in sexual activities that you did not want.

What is physical abuse?

Physical abuse is possibly the most recognizable form of abuse. It can put life at stake. 

• They push you
• They slap you or punch you
• They hit you
• Knives or pieces of broken glass are nailed to you
• They spit
• They hit you severely, pulling your hair
• They hit your head against the wall or the dashboard of the car

What is emotional abuse?

Emotional abuse is a highly effective way of building an inequality of power within a Relationship Problem.

Emotional abuse is as damaging as physical violence. It often involves physical or sexual abuse or threats thereof.

• They constantly monitor and control you in your use of technology: they record your phone calls, they check the calls made, they read your text messages or emails; they spy on you at home by using hidden cameras installed at home.
• The abuser threatens to kill the woman, her children, the woman's relatives, or kill himself and gives details about how and when he will do it.
• The abuser uses insults and derogatory language to refer to you (for example, "that thing", "whore").

What is sexual abuse?

When there are abuse and force within a romantic relationship, the likelihood of coercion and sexual abuse is high. 

• You are repeatedly raped and beaten; they tell you that it is your duty to have sex.
• Making love when you are particularly helpless, week.
• The rest point is so mentally disturbed that I can't even mention in this article. It is because Indian law says; nothing is marital rape, its lovemaking.

What is financial abuse?

Financial abuse is a type of domestic violence, in which the abuser uses money as a means of controlling his partner. It is a technique that the abuser uses to gain power and dominance, designed to corner the woman in a state of complete financial dependence. 

• They do not let you have the income that allows you to be financially independent
• They forget your signature on checks
• They deny you money for food, for you and your children, and to pay household bills.

If you are or think you could be in a mistreatment relationship, you must call or help

Psychologically - How to Solve this Relationship Problem

This is what the world is trying to change. A woman has certain biological responsibility in terms of bringing us all in this world. Because of that, there is a certain social handicap that evolves in a certain period of time. 

These persons in our society have exploited too harshly almost everywhere not everybody.

To dominate or exploit women, individual people will always do. They tend to exploit anybody who is a little weaker than them. 

The teacher used to beat use almost every day of school. Why are you beating a child? Simply they are weaker and smaller than you. You are not beating because you know something better. However, when they grow up you don't beat them because you know the consequences. They are not exploiting them because they are women, it's only because they are weaker and they know there are no consequences.

Example:

Why do people use to shoot and kill animals? Just only for pleasure, they knew consequences; animals will not shoot them back.

You beat a woman because you can't beat you back. But today women have choices, it’s time to make that choice and be more powerful. We alone can't change everything within a few days. 

From the very beginning, moving girl children is very important and it doesn't mean she should exploit others.

Advice on Relationship

In a relationship, the Online Relationship Counselling is a hope to save the relationship and realize you and your partner that this is not the solution. Here Ritu Singal Life coach can figure out with Online Relationship Counselling, with some Relationship Advice for Women and Relationship Advice for Men.

But nothing is left then it’s time to be a part of the change and live for you, feel empowered.

Fight for yourself because the world is with you.